I may not feel much real pain from the cancer itself, but it definitely is beginning to cause some for me in real life.
I received a phone call from the secretary of a group I belong to and have enjoyed working for. The chairman of the organization hoped to borrow several of the top hats I had for an event he was involved in the next evening. So, I got in my car and headed over to drop them off at the office so he could use them and was more than happy to do so.
When I arrived, had a nice but short visit because my dog,Foxy, was in the car with me and it is quite warm today. Before I left, she asked if I was planning to come to the event on the 26th and agreed. I told her I had it on my calendar and I was looking forward to doing the chalk drawing just like I said I would. She then told me, "The group has decided it was too much work and no one looked at it anyway so they don't want to do it this year. I told them I liked it, but that didn't affect their decision."
Rather than whine and say "it would have been nice if someone would have let me know" I just told her ok and thanked her for letting me know. When I returned to the car, it did make me wonder though...IF I hadn't stopped by to drop off the hats for an unrelated event, would someone have called or emailed to let me know? Would they have waited until I came to do it that morning after buying all the chalk? With only a week left before the event, who knows?
Again, no one asked, they just "assumed" it was too much for me. I wonder how many more times this will happen and with how many different groups? This could be a very long year.
Being on my own is challenging enough! When you have breast cancer, you have more decisions to make than you expect, more options than you ever imagined, more emotions than you can sometimes handle, and have to trust people you hardly know. When there isn't a partner, spouse, parent, sibling or child in your life, who shares in the important decisions, deals with your highs AND lows, helps when you can't help yourself? How much is too much to ask? Guess we'll take it a day at a time and see...
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Notes from the author...
First I want to express my heartfelt THANK YOU to my chosen family members and my caring and supportive friends. Just knowing you are there brings much comfort and is a constant reminder that with love, all things are possible! PLEASE remember that nothing shared here is ever meant to hurt and I hope you will keep that in mind if you read something that touches you that way.
***If you would like to start where it all began, go to the post #1 "Why a Blog?" Thank you for taking the time to share my life experiences as a reader and a friend. Blessings to you all~
First I want to express my heartfelt THANK YOU to my chosen family members and my caring and supportive friends. Just knowing you are there brings much comfort and is a constant reminder that with love, all things are possible! PLEASE remember that nothing shared here is ever meant to hurt and I hope you will keep that in mind if you read something that touches you that way.
***If you would like to start where it all began, go to the post #1 "Why a Blog?" Thank you for taking the time to share my life experiences as a reader and a friend. Blessings to you all~
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