When you don't know for sure, just assume she can't do it.

I may not feel much real pain from the cancer itself, but it definitely is beginning to cause some for me in real life.

I received a phone call from the secretary of a group I belong to and have enjoyed working for. The chairman of the organization hoped to borrow several of the top hats I had for an event he was involved in the next evening. So, I got in my car and headed over to drop them off at the office so he could use them and was more than happy to do so.

When I arrived, had a nice but short visit because my dog,Foxy, was in the car with me and it is quite warm today. Before I left, she asked if I was planning to come to the event on the 26th and agreed. I told her I had it on my calendar and I was looking forward to doing the chalk drawing just like I said I would. She then told me, "The group has decided it was too much work and no one looked at it anyway so they don't want to do it this year. I told them I liked it, but that didn't affect their decision."

Rather than whine and say "it would have been nice if someone would have let me know" I just told her ok and thanked her for letting me know. When I returned to the car, it did make me wonder though...IF I hadn't stopped by to drop off the hats for an unrelated event, would someone have called or emailed to let me know? Would they have waited until I came to do it that morning after buying all the chalk? With only a week left before the event, who knows?

Again, no one asked, they just "assumed" it was too much for me. I wonder how many more times this will happen and with how many different groups? This could be a very long year.